Let’s talk about five tactics that don’t stop bullies – in school, in relationships and at work Five tactics that don’t stop bullies – in school, in relationships and at work
- To deny, minimize, avoid, ignore or condone bad conduct – to suffer in silence or to take the blame or to “Rise above” bullying, harassment or abuse. How many abused kids and suicides will it take before we realize that bullying does not stop by itself? How many battered women does it take before we realize that abusers don’t simply wake up one day as better people?
- To beg, bribe or appease relentless, chronic bullies to try to get them to stop – the Golden Rule won’t stop real-world bullies. Bullies interpret your kindness and niceness as weakness and an invitation to push more boundaries or to go after you more.
- Mediate, negotiate or compromise forever. To accept excuses, justifications or promises forever, or to try to educate or rehabilitate forever without requiring immediate change the behavior of bullies – to sacrifice good kids or adults at work (the targets) in order to try to rehabilitate the bullies.
- Not to have a program with real and escalating consequences to bullies – to dump the bullies on other classes at school or other teams at work.
Relentless bullies are predators who go after the weak, the isolated and those who don’t resist.
You may be a target; don’t be a victim. Take care of yourself mentally and emotionally. Treat yourself as if you matter.
See: Leichtling YouTube: Five Common Tactics That Do Not Stop Bullies http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1w8Tno4RJPA
Leichtling YouTube: How Not To Be a Victim of Bullying http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNx-W9glnFg
Since all tactics depend on the situation, expert coaching by phone or Skype helps. We can design a plan that fits you and your situation. And build your will and skill to carry it out effectively.