Harry and Suzie did nothing. Well, nothing beyond necessary grocery shopping, going to work, watching TV and seeing their children and grandchildren.
They weren’t really depressed. They were comfortable in the routine of their lives. They never did anything new. They said they didn’t need to learn anything new, see anything new or think about anything new. They knew enough to live the rest of their lives. They knew things would change a little when they retired but they assumed they’d adjust, reassert the same routine and stay comfortable.
This was a life-long pattern for Harry and Suzie. It hadn’t begun in response to some tragedy or major problem.
Who’d argue against the life Harry and Suzie had chosen. They were comfortable and they weren’t grumpy, negative or nasty to their families, They were open about not understanding one grown child and his wife who liked studying, traveling, museums, theater and trying new restaurants. They weren’t particularly condemning; they didn’t try to criticize, harass or bully their son and his family into a different way of life.
Their son and his wife, and Harry’s brother and his wife, had a totally different approach to life. Although they loved many of the old ways – they enjoyed the holidays, took great care of their children and paid their bills – they also wanted to experience new adventures.
Maybe that’s a good word for what they sought; adventures in every aspect of live – adventures with their minds and with their senses. They looked forward to travelling to new places, as well as some of the old; to new sights and tastes and sounds, as well as some of the old; to new projects around the house, in their community and in their learning.
They had energy and interests; they said “yes” to whatever out there seemed like fun and joyful. They were excited and passionate about their interests and adventures. Their engines seemed to be on all the time.
Which is right? Wrong question.
The right question is how do you want to live? Before you get married, before you have kids, before you retire, ask, “How do you want to do during an average day, an average week, a month, a year? What would you like to be doing regularly and what new in terms of travel, food, interests, learning, fun, passion, joy?
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